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The Illusion Of Control

Jan 1, 2023 12:14:11 PM / by Tim McCarthy posted in Newsletter


I’ve been learning about control for a little more than 25 years. My initial work was on myself, and to this day, I strive to consider what I have control over and what I do not. Once I see what is true in a situation bothering me, acting on it saves needless pain.

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What You Want

Nov 30, 2022 8:56:15 AM / by Tim McCarthy posted in Newsletter


My career has been a long series of “finding out what people want or need, then giving it to them”.  That, in very few words is how to succeed in business.   

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Living Testimony by Tim McCarthy

Oct 31, 2022 11:22:04 AM / by Tim McCarthy posted in Newsletter


This is a tribute article but more to the future than the past.

My friend and mentor, Rich Clark, passed suddenly at 71 last month. Rich spent the first 18 years of his career as a religion teacher and administrator at Loyola Academy in Chicago, his alma mater. He moved to Cleveland to became principal of St. Ignatius High School where he led a growth spurt for this nationally recognized school.

Thanks to the 150 friends who completed our survey monkey. Your input, which will be summarized next month altered the course we will take starting 1.1.23.  -Tim

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Three Questions

Aug 29, 2022 1:55:11 PM / by Tim McCarthy posted in Newsletter


My son, Timmy, listened patiently to my complicated description of a tough decision then asked me three simple questions:

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Processing Input

Jul 30, 2022 10:12:18 AM / by Tim McCarthy posted in Newsletter


“You don’t trust me”.

It hit me like a brick to the side of my head.

But as I’ve grown older, I try hard to process input that I don’t like.

I had to ask myself immediately (before responding) if the judgment is their truth or mine. I asked myself, “is it true, do I really not trust them?” The answer was no, I trust this person very much.

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Reciprocal Giving

Jun 30, 2022 12:00:00 AM / by Tim McCarthy posted in Newsletter


Sounds oxymoronic.  It’s not.

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Shaping Our Jiminy Cricket

May 30, 2022 7:51:01 AM / by Tim McCarthy posted in Newsletter


Each of us operates with a voice inside our head, our life’s narrator. Narrator seems a good term since it’s the voice that judges every thought we have, every action we consider, then often does a post-analysis on every action we take.

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The Business of Good

Apr 30, 2022 1:53:37 PM / by Tim McCarthy posted in Newsletter


An owner/CEO recently asked me, “how do I start a foundation, so that I can give back?”

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Time Stretching Exercises

Mar 31, 2022 10:41:48 AM / by Tim McCarthy posted in Newsletter


Oliver Burkeman subtitled his book 4,000 Weeks“time management for mortals”. Time and mortality are tough subjects that Burkeman faces head-on and with creativity and humor uncommon to self-help books.

I’ve been wrestling with time since December 22, 1987, when I tossed my wristwatch in a wastebasket at the Troy (OH) library an hour after I was fired from a senior leadership position in a large company. I then wrote a list of things I’d rather do with my life than continue my “pants on fire” existence.

Like most people, the early years I focused on “time management”, using my Franklin Covey planner and developing habits such as “first things first”. This works to a point but over time, I “sharpened my saw” so finely that it cut me. Now while encouraging good planning, I also warn folks that “planning without a sense of humor and self-forgiveness can cause mental illness”.

Burkeman’s theory takes this another step by using our mortality as context for planning. Essentially, his path suggests that we do less, better. Time saving devices are just that, they save time for other things. Amazon, Uber, and our IPhones give us more time to do...what?

The faith my parents gifted me says there’s something beyond human time. My friends who practice their Jewish faith say a good life is its own reward. In either event, I’ve become more satisfied in my life as I’ve learned to use time stretching exercises that I started working on that day in 1987.

  I plan my work, then work my plan. Getting things done fulfills me, coaching others inspires me. It’s always a slog but wins give me confidence, satisfaction, and self-worth. But most of all, they make my leisure time more leisurely.

  • I set aside specific times each week for things that heal me like playing music, running, praying, traveling, and reading. Choose any form, it’s called recreation (re-creation) for a reason.
  • Measure your relationships. That is, list every person you deal with frequently and identify whether they are takers, givers, or both. Then lovingly set your boundaries.
  • Set a news diet. Every moment I spend listening to the extremes (of pessimism OR optimism) is another wasted minute. I like staying informed and involved, endless opinions wear me out.
  • Set your life goals, written with timetables and measurements. There is no wrong way to do this. Whatever you write down in any form is preferable to leaving it entirely to “chance”. Chance means what most workshop participants tell me initially: “It’s all up here in my head”.
  • Cutting my lists. Goals can be a long list. So, I go back each year and number my goals from most to least important. 3 things done well and enjoyably beats glancing blows on a list of 10.
  • Meditate. Like planning, there is no wrong way to do this. I stop, whether for a minute or twenty and breathe.

According to Burkeman’s formula, with good luck I have about 500 more weeks in this mortal coil. Whether 20 or 1,000 weeks remain, I’ll eventually get the inevitable terminal diagnosis. When I do, having been a brilliant time manager will be just as useless as how much wealth I’ve accumulated.

Instead, I simply want to look back (and forward) and say I’d squeezed my orange to the peel.



Tim McCarthy
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The Softening of Age

Feb 28, 2022 5:01:30 PM / by Tim McCarthy posted in Newsletter


Six of my nine brothers and sisters who remain earthbound gathered to kibbutz for a few days recently. 

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